When I was pregnant with my with my first baby, I read all the books and asked all the right questions – BUT – but I always skimmed the parts about c-sections. Who WANTS a c-section? (I know there are those who do, but it was never part of my ‘plan.’) That being said, I never really had a birth plan either, I told my doctor and nurses that I just wanted to take it all as it came and make decisions as necessary. I didn’t want to be a stringent this-is-what-I-want-and-I-won’t-deviate kind of moms-to-be. I told them my hope was for a med-free delivery, but I was open to them if I felt it was getting to be too much for me. (Any first time mom should be a little flexible – you have no idea what you’re getting into!)
However, at my 37 week appointment, by doctor asked me how I would feel if it came to be that I required a c-section. Hmm… why is he asking this?! Turns out, it was a pretty standard question for him because, he says, most moms don’t think about it and often have a hard time accepting it if/when the need arises. OK. Makes sense. I told him that it wasn’t my ideal outcome, but I would be fine if that meant the difference between a healthy baby/delivery and one that wasn’t.
Fast forward to my delivery day, which happened to be my due date. In observation, my doctor told me I was about 1 cm, but my contractions were KILLING me and were coming every 2 minutes. I agreed to start pitocin, but he wanted to do a quick ultrasound to check her position…breech. The decision was made to begin prepping for surgery. By 10:12 I was a mama! Want more of the details?
In the weeks that followed I became a fan of a lot of mommy blogs on Facebook and quickly learned there is a large contingent of people who are EXTREMELY anti-hospital/c-section/pain meds/etc. I’m not here to debate the merits of natural childbirth, all I want to say is that whether you have a c-section because it was medically necessary or because you elected to have one for convenience (or any other reason) you are NOT a failure! Here’s why…
You don’t have to worry about peeing your pants.
A good friend warned me about “snissing” (sneezing and you-know-what-ing at the same time) I didn’t believe that it would EVER happen to me. Well, Kegels can only do so much and when you’re 38 weeks along, plopped on the sofa with a 7 pound baby pressing on your bladder I DARE YOU to sneeze without repercussions. The beauty of a c-section is this won’t keep happening post-delivery. It stops immediately! Halleluiah.
Things down there aren’t all stretched out!
Pretty self-explanatory and I know you can get back to where you once were with a little patience and a lot of work, but who wants to do that? C-section mamas live with happy baby daddies. That’s all I’m sayin’.
You will save a lot of time.
I labored for all of 7 hours. For three of them I didn’t know I was in labor and the last hour I was numb from anesthesia meaning I spent about three hours in pain. That was enough for me. Not to say I wouldn’t like to TRY a VBAC someday, but honestly I was secretly relieved when we decided on a c-section! I was SO OVER contractions.
More days in the hospital AND time off from work.
Not sure about you, but my short term disability insurance gave me an extra 2 weeks of PAID time off for having a c-section. Cha-ching! And, law mandates that mamas who undergo the knife get to be in the hospital for four days. Four days of no cooking, cleaning, or worrying about anything. Bliss! (Of course you can always leave early, I did.)
And while all that may sound vain, the most IMPORTANT reason a c-section rocks is because,
It leaves mama with a healthy baby!
Don’t let the naysayers get you down. Birthing a baby is such an individual experience and everyone should get to have their how they want it. Unfortunately, it isn’t always the case, so take pride in the fact that you carried a baby, gave it a healthy delivery (not matter how it came) and have come to be an awesome mama with a righteous battle scar to prove it!
Did you have a c-section? Planned? Unplanned? How did you cope?